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This Photo Documentary ‘Senior Love Triangle’ Will Steal Your Heart And Leave You In Aww!

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  •  May 16, 2018

‘To think of connection as a shield from the loneliness of ageing, and to seek it for the desire to solace within oneself.’ Now isn’t that a beautiful and profound definition of love!

Documentary photographer, photojournalist, and filmmaker Isadora Kosofsky believes in long-form storytelling and does it with an immersive approach. A result of which is her photo documentary, ‘Senior Love Triangle’, a never-heard-before and one of its kind!

Senior Love Triangle shadows the lives of Jeanie, 82, Will, 84, and Adina, 90, and shows how they are bound by their relationship. Describing their bond, Isadora’s shares Will’s comment in one of her Instagram posts, “We live above the law. Not outside the law, but above the law. We are not outlaws.”

When Will was 79, he moved to a retirement home and started a relationship with Adina. Later he relocated to another retirement facility where he met Jeanie. Since Will did not want to choose between his two companions, Will, Jeanie and Adina formed a trio.

Some images from “Senior Love Triangle” are currently being shown at the Brooklyn Bridge Park as part of the Fence. The Fence is a traveling public photography exhibit. You can also see the exhibition in Denver, Santa Fe, Atlanta and Durham in August. You can catch it in Boston in October and in Houston in December @photovillenyc. “Senior Love Triangle” is a photo documentary that shadows Jeanie, 82, Will, 84, and Adina, 90, who are bound by their relationship. They view their connection as a shield from the loneliness of aging. Attempting to find solace within themselves, they seek escape with each other. In describing their bond, Will shares, “We live above the law. Not outside the law, but above the law. We are not outlaws.” When Will was 79, he moved to a retirement home and started a relationship with Adina. After, he relocated to another retirement facility where he met Jeanie. Since Will did not want to choose between his two companions, Will, Jeanie and Adina formed a trio. Jeanie confides, “To share Will is a thorn in your side. A relationship between a man and a woman is private. It is a couple. Not a trio.” When asked about the dynamic, Adina explains, “there many different kinds of love.” Above image: Jeanie kisses Will on their bed. This series is partly funded by the Inge Morath Award of @magnumfoundation (@time @timelightbox @lemondefr @newyorkerphoto). “Senior Love Triangle” is the inspiration for the forthcoming narrative (fiction) feature film entitled “Three,” coming in 2018. #seniors #relationships #trio #seniorlovetriangle

270 Likes, 10 Comments – Isadora Kosofsky (@isadorakosofsky) on Instagram: “Some images from “Senior Love Triangle” are currently being shown at the Brooklyn Bridge Park as…”

In the same post, Jeanie confides, “To share Will is a thorn in your side. A relationship between a man and a woman is private. It is a couple. Not a trio.” But talking about the dynamic, Adina explains, “There are many different kinds of love.”

Their ‘Love Triangle’ is the inspiration for the forthcoming narrative (fiction) feature film entitled “Three,” coming in 2018. And some images from “Senior Love Triangle” are currently being shown at the Brooklyn Bridge Park as part of the Fence, which is a traveling public photography exhibit.

Scroll through to learn more about this beautiful love triangle:

Jeanie & Will. Images from “Senior Love Triangle” are part of the Fence, a traveling photography exhibit in the US and Canada. Check it out currently in Houston at Memorial Park. Thanks @united_photo @photovillenyc for their risking taking; I am so happy that this story is being shared in such a public format. #seniorlovetriangle #publicart

581 Likes, 9 Comments – Isadora Kosofsky (@isadorakosofsky) on Instagram: “Jeanie & Will. Images from “Senior Love Triangle” are part of the Fence, a traveling photography…”

The story behind the cover picture:

Jeanie and Will kiss in front of 7-Eleven, an image I found in a folder within a folder the other day. Image from Senior Love Triangle, my long term photo documentary about three seniors in a romantic entanglement.

1,013 Likes, 11 Comments – Isadora Kosofsky (@isadorakosofsky) on Instagram: “Jeanie and Will kiss in front of 7-Eleven, an image I found in a folder within a folder the other…”

Jeanie and Adina interlock hands as they talk about Will’s distance from them and his rage-filled episodes:

Jeanie and Adina interlock hands as they talk about Will’s distance from them and his rageful episodes, from the series, “Senior Love Triangle.” When this image went up on the wall of the Philadelphia Museum of Art, I looked at it and it became something other than a documentary photo of Jeanie and Adina who I knew so intimately. I remember standing in front of it when I was 19 and was flooded with emotion. In my mind’s eye, for a moment, it became an image of my mother and me, embracing against my father’s abuse in a glass tank of secrets and illusions. In the lead up to April, as part of my TED Fellowship, I’ve been asked to reflect on my own herstory. I’ve been asked, “where are you in your work?” This question may be scarier than many of the dangers I’ve faced in my life and in the field, but it is an essential one and one that, as a “girl,” I am responsible for responding to. The photographs are actual documents of other people’s lives, but they also are what you want them to be, a mirror of your hidden truths and vulnerabilities. #womenshistorymonth #seniorlovetriangle

518 Likes, 9 Comments – Isadora Kosofsky (@isadorakosofsky) on Instagram: “Jeanie and Adina interlock hands as they talk about Will’s distance from them and his rageful…”

Will shoots insulin, as Jeanie sits next to him:

Will shoots insulin, as Jeanie sits next to him. Will was addicted to desserts and Ensure, a sugar loaded dietary supplement drink. He used to wear a fanny pack full of empty Ensure, candy, a comb and insulin. “Senior Love Triangle” is my long term photo documentary that shadows Jeanie, age 81, Will, age 84, and Adina, age 90 – a trio of seniors in a romantic conflict. I first met the trio at a retirement home in Los Angeles and felt an immediate connection to them without knowing the details of their dynamic. Through their relationship, Jean, Will and Adina challenge socio-cultural norms projected about the elderly. Jeanie, reflecting on her life, tells me, “I do not wish to assume all the garments of maturity.” Jeanie shares, “I want to be free.” For these individuals, aging is paradoxically a form of both loss and liberation. Attempting to find solace within themselves, they seek escape with each other. When I was a part of the lives of Jeanie, Will and Adina, I felt I was engaging in questionable activity, in something different. Each day we searched for a new “adventure,” a purpose. I felt the comfort of being part of the group. But the thrill revealed sadness. I, too, experienced the remoteness that one can feel even when part of the group, or pair. I felt the ache that dwelled just below the surface of their romanticism. “Sharing Will is a thorn in your side. A relationship between a man and a woman is private. It is a couple. Not a trio,” Jeanie says. Stay tuned for Three, the narrative feature film based on my photo documentary which is currently in production thanks to the efforts of an incredible group of people. #archives

1,277 Likes, 17 Comments – Isadora Kosofsky (@isadorakosofsky) on Instagram: “Will shoots insulin, as Jeanie sits next to him. Will was addicted to desserts and Ensure, a sugar…”

Awwww! 

Happy #ValentinesDay! I’m sharing images of three people and a story that are very close to my heart. My long-term photo documentary entitled “Senior Love Triangle,” shadows Jeanie, age 81, Will, age 84, and Adina, age 91, who are romantically entwined. Jeanie, age 81, Will, age 84, and Adina, age 91, are three people bound by a relationship. When asked about the dynamic, Will once shared, “We live above the law. Not outside the law. We are not outlaws.” Even in the midst of conflict between both women over Will, trips to donut shops, markets, cafes and loitering at bus stops yields meaning to keep their connection intact. Even though Jeanie, Will and Adina’s relationship began at senior care facilities, the outside world is where they spend most of their time; for them, the care centers represent conformity and are a reminder of solitude. Attempting to find solace within themselves, they seek escape with each other. Yet, as Jeanie explains, the dynamic is more complex than the romanticism on the surface, “To share Will is a thorn in your side. A relationship between a man and a woman is private. It is a couple. Not a trio,” she shares. I met Jeanie, Will and Adina at a retirement home in Los Angeles; I felt an immediate connection to Jeanie and the separation she felt as she walked behind Adina and Will, so I decided to imbed myself in their lives over a period of years. The photo series is the basis for the forthcoming narrative feature film entitled Three (2018). For me, Jeanie, Will, and Adina’s story emotes both a desire for intimacy and, more significantly, a fear of aloneness that is simultaneously specific to the aging process and universally ageless. Stay tuned for the Senior Love Triangle book, which I’m currently designing. #seniors #love #trio project was partly funded by the Inge Morath Award of the @magnumfoundation #seniorlovetriangle

1,029 Likes, 33 Comments – Isadora Kosofsky (@isadorakosofsky) on Instagram: “Happy #ValentinesDay! I’m sharing images of three people and a story that are very close to my…”

Jeanie & Will’s night moments from “Senior Love Triangle”

 

Jeanie & Will night moments from “Senior Love Triangle.” After getting kicked out of both retirement homes, Will rented a studio apartment. He was expelled from Jeanie’s home for punching a guy who was flirting with her. Will then lived in a van outside Jeanie’s place. Finally, he was able to get the apartment that he wanted. It took months to secure the place because he kept giving his money to an overseas scam that promised him his perception of the American Dream, which he hoped would lead to a luxurious life for him and his two loves, Jeanie and Adina. Upon moving into the studio, he didn’t have money for furniture until his following social security, so we sat on the carpet. One night, Jeanie and Will fell asleep. I lied down on the other side of the studio. At 4 am, Will woke me up and asked if I wanted to have some Neapolitan ice cream out of a wine glass. He told me, “but its cow’s milk. The healthiest thing in the world.” Recently, I went back through the files from the series again. Some photos in, I started to cry and I cried for the three days that it took me to get through the images. I photographed the trio for years before they broke up. There was a period of months where I only hung out with them; they became my only reality. I realize that this was the greatest time in my life when I was completely immersed in this story. I didn’t know this then. Hindsight is clear as water, which is both a burden and a release. Memory, too, was such an integral aspect of the trio’s connection, because much of their attraction was rooted in wanting to fulfill dreams that stemmed from earlier in their lives. They looked at one another, but there was also a sense that they were also staring back at something else in each other’s eyes, which is something I identified with. Doc storytelling is similar to falling in love – you have to sit in the discomfort, uncertainty, joy and pain with those you shadow. You find your soul buddies (maybe a truer version of the socially dubbed soulmates.) Next month, with so much excitement, their story will manifest in a new format – Three (2018), which is a narrative feature film based on the photo documentary. #seniorlovetriangle

641 Likes, 20 Comments – Isadora Kosofsky (@isadorakosofsky) on Instagram: “Jeanie & Will night moments from “Senior Love Triangle.” After getting kicked out of both…”

Wish to dig deeper into their stories? Head to Isadora Kosofsky’s Instagram!

Friends in Portugal – “Senior Love Triangle” opened today at Municipal Museum Coimbra (Lisbon) and will be open until May 31. Thank you to curator Luis Vasconcelos and to the Joana Vasconcelos Foundation for organizing this exhibition. “Senior Love Triangle” is my long form photo documentary that shadows Jeanie, Will and Adina – a trio of seniors in a romantic conflict. I first met the trio at a retirement home in Los Angeles and felt an immediate connection to them without knowing the details of their dynamic. Through their relationship, Jean, Will and Adina challenge socio-cultural norms projected about the elderly. Jeanie, reflecting on her life, tells me, “I do not wish to assume all the garments of maturity.” Jeanie shares, “I want to be free.” For these individuals, aging is paradoxically a form of both loss and liberation. Attempting to find solace within themselves, they seek escape with each other. When I was a part of the lives of Jeanie, Will and Adina, I felt I was engaging in questionable activity, in something different. Each day we searched for a new “adventure,” a purpose. I felt the comfort of being part of the group. But the thrill revealed sadness. I, too, experienced the remoteness that one can feel even when part of the group, or pair. I felt the ache that dwelled just below the surface of their romanticism. “Sharing Will is a thorn in your side. A relationship between a man and a woman is private. It is a couple. Not a trio,” Jeanie says. Stay tuned for Three, the narrative feature film based on my photo documentary which is currently in production thanks to the efforts of an incredible group of people. Above image: Will holds Adina outside her retirement home on New Year’ Eve; she says to him, “I don’t want you to go.”

498 Likes, 9 Comments – Isadora Kosofsky (@isadorakosofsky) on Instagram: “Friends in Portugal – “Senior Love Triangle” opened today at Municipal Museum Coimbra (Lisbon) and…”

 

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