The Inspiring Story Of A Fearless Pakistani Woman
- IWB Post
- November 27, 2015
They say that coal turns into diamond only under extreme pressure. Maybe, that’s how we all bloom. This is the story of a Pakistani woman who rediscovered her strength after the demise of her husband. She dreams to have a peaceful life, a normal life, just like the rest of us.
The story appeared on Humans of Pakistan.
I got married when I was in 10th grade. My in-laws were even more conservative than my parents. They didn’t even allow me to attend my children’s parents teacher meetings. My life was limited to the walls of my house. In 1995, my husband passed away and I was left with 4 sons. That was when I witnessed how relationships change. After the death of my husband, my in-laws didn’t support me but in 40 days my sons transformed from teenagers into men and breadwinners of the family. In 2000, I took the momentous decision to continue my studies again. When I tried to get admission in a private college for FA, they laughed at me and said that we don’t have enough seats for the youth, how can we gave admission to a middle aged woman? Without giving up, I took admission in Allama Iqbal Open University instead and pursued my studies.
Politics was never my cup of tea; I was more into philanthropy. After the earthquake of 2005, my family and I catered to 75 women who were badly affected. We opened a center for them, where they stayed with their families. Then in 2009, we set up a camp for IDPs of Sawat and looked after 150 families. In the same year, women from a political party came to me and asked me to represent their party from Islamabad. At first I refused, as it had never been my interest, but after insistence from my sons, I accepted. Today, I am a proud educated, working mother and family members who had abandoned us in the hard times consider us pride of the family. I just want to say that life keeps taking tests. These tests are for your own good – they make you experienced enough so that you can manage hardships in a better manner. Get education, equip yourself with the tools needed to succeed, but don’t ever give up when life tests you. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!”
– “Where do you see yourself in the next 5 years?”
“In coming years, I want a far house in a village, where I can look after my hens, goat and cows. I was very young when my father owned a farmhouse and I have always only heard stories of it, as we had to sell it. I have always wished for a peaceful life with animals, and my children visiting me every now and then.