SPRING CONVERSATION WITH YOUR BELOVED ONE
- IWB Post
- February 4, 2014
February is the month of spring when the flowers bloom in their full colours. Love blushes and brushes every one as “Spring” which brings vitality and vigour is undoubtedly the season of love. Hence, Vansant, the God of spring is the best friend of Kama deva, God of love and his wife Rati.
In ancient times, Basant Panchami was the occasion when lovers prayed for a fruitful life of togetherness. Basant Panchami is an occasion for worshipping Kama deva and his companion Rati along with goddess Saraswati. For the same reason it is also considered an auspicious time for weddings. Kama deva is the personification of Love but can we explain love, scientifically?
According to the triangular theory of love developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg, “the three components of love are intimacy, passion, and commitment. Intimacy encompasses feelings of attachment, closeness, connection and bonding. Passion defines drives connected to both limerance; a state of obsession and sexual attraction. Commitment reflects, in the short term, the decision to remain with another, and in the long term, the shared achievements and plans made with that other person.”
In today’s busy life we seldom sit and talk to each other, we often miss that the person we love wants to share a little something with us or he/she just wants to be hugged. We are so engrossed in our lives after getting person we love that we become strangers again who live under the same roof, are best of friends but lost in the world of hectic jobs, demanding kids and elders, stress of achievements etc.
Let me share some questions which you can ask each other over a cup of tea with open minds and a thirst to peep more into each other’s souls. It works, believe me! So, have an interview with your partner today!
Question 1: What’s your favorite romantic vacation? Discuss your dream destinations!
Question 2: What romantic gifts you want to receive?
Question 3: How many times do you think we should call each other in a day?
Question 4: When we met for the first time, what was your first impression of me?
Question 5: For a relationship to be successful what is the one most important thing?
Question 6: The most special memory that we both hold?
Question 7: What do you love most about bodies of each other?
Question 8: A love song which best describes our relationships?
Question 9: What change we both want to make at home, in our bedroom?
Question 10: When was the last time you disliked something I did?
Question 11: The craziest thing you can do for me.
Question 12: One thing about me you’d like me to change.
Question 13: What do you want me to do more often for you?
Question 14: When your mood is not good, would you want me to leave you alone or spend time with you and cheer you up?
They are simple things but couples really forget to talk about it. This conversation even if a few questions pondered can bring you closer, it would let you see your loved one with a new understanding.
Love is a bond which has both extremes of strength – It is the Strongest and yet the most fragile. Love needs our constant efforts to continue blooming and spreading beautiful colours in the everlasting “Spring” of our lives.
By Ruby Khan,
Jaipur Women Blog Journalist