Sheryl Sandberg’s Book ‘Option B’ Breaks Free The Stigma Around Widows Dating
- IWB Post
- April 20, 2017
Losing your dear ones, sometimes breaks a person’s spirit and make them question their existence and purpose in life.
Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook’s COO, lost her husband in 2015, but it did not deter her spirit to carry on with life. She is definitely a true example of fortitude and strength!
Just over two weeks after her husband’s death, the Facebook COO was preparing a father-child activity when she cried out loud saying “I want Dave,” Consoling her, a friend said to her, “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of Option B.” After ten months of her husband’s death, she found a love in her long time friend Bobby Kotick.
As what our so-called “civilized” society has been questioning and treating every other woman, they started judging her, too. Sandberg was bombarded with many stereotypical allegations such as ‘a newly widowed shouldn’t date too soon’ and ‘a widow dating early indicates her low character.’
However, nothing shook Sandberg. She has stood by herself and by many other women in the similar situation.
And, to break free the stigma she has now come up with a book named as Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy. Her book combines the stories, research, and practical advice to help people build strength for life’s challenges. Sandberg has quoted her personal insights, basing it on the researches from Adam Grant, a Psychologist, and her close friend.
She said, “I think I’m helping people remember that dating, for those who want to do it, is part of moving forward, and it is Option B. If I could, I would only date Dave. I made that choice. I just had that taken away from me,”
Explaining the harsh reality that women have to face, she said, “I’m hoping that this book helps people stop judging people who date [after the loss of a partner], particularly women, because women get judged much more harshly. Men date sooner, men date more, and women get judged more. And, you know, obviously that’s super unfair.”
It’s high time that we break these patriarchal shackles that have for long prevented a woman’s voice, choice, and freedom to live.