Madhu Doshi: My Late Husband Wished Me To Win Cancer & So I Did
- IWB Post
- October 2, 2017
Celebrating the spirit of Breast Cancer survivors this Pink October, IWB’s campaign I CAN
cer will bring to light the emotional yet motivating accounts of women who fought and survived Breast Cancer.
Madhu Doshi, a breast cancer survivor from Kishangarh district was diagnosed with the disease four years ago at its first stage.
How did your battle with cancer begin?
Madhu Doshi: I was suffering from gynecological problems because of which my hemoglobin went really low. Despite getting bottles of blood infused into my body, my condition wasn’t improving. I had no idea that it could be a breast cancer. After realizing a lump in my right breast, I went for mammography. I lived in Kishangarh, and since there wasn’t a proper hospital, I went to Ajmer to get my tests done. After the needle test, my doctor told me that I had to get the lump removed which meant no removal of breasts.
Me: What did your rediscover about yourself during your battle with cancer?
Madhu Doshi: I didn’t get a lot of time to think after my lump was detected. Within 10 days I was operated. But yes amidst that difficult time, I used to get extremely tensed worrying about my children and my husband. Though everybody in my family assured me that was just a lump, and I would be fine soon, but Cancer is Cancer. ‘Itni badi bimari ka naam sunkar toh koi bhi dar jaye.’
And then when my chemo started and I started losing my hair, I got very conscious. I didn’t step out of the house for six months and always wore a scarf, even when I was at home. That time, I realized that I was stronger than I thought.
With teary eyes, she told me how she lost her husband three months after her operation. “My husband was a very healthy person who had never had any heart problem or other medical complication. One day when he returned from work, he complained about pain in chest. Just within few minutes, he collapsed. That was the hardest time for me, harder than my cancer. I was constantly questioning myself, “Ki itni badi bimari se nikal kar mai theek ho gayi aur mere husband jinhe kuch nahi tha wo aise chale gaye…”
Post his death I had to take care of the entire household. God knows how I got that strength to manage the house and my kids and everything else. I had never in my life stepped out of the house alone, not even to buy vegetables. I had to face the world alone.
Who stood by you during that difficult time?
Madhu Doshi: My brother who is an orthopedic surgeon in Ajmer was my constant pillar of the support. Also, my cousin sister, who had breast cancer 10 years ago, helped me face complications with ease since she had experienced them all.
I had a lot of visitors those days. I remember how many of them scared me saying things like ‘How will I manage myself now, since my husband is no more, making my disease sound bigger than it was.’
But I always believed in God, and I thought maybe because my husband had to leave us, I’ve become this strong now. I removed all negative thoughts from my mind. I made myself believe that nothing would happen to me.
I hugged her and was about to leave. That moment she said, “It is very important for us to be positive and believe in ourselves, beta. Just because I did, I am standing here today in front of you.”
Picture courtesy: Chhaveesh Nokhwal