Kalki Koechlin Reveals She Was Sexually Abused As A Child
- IWB Post
- April 10, 2015
The Bollywood women are not afraid of speaking up in public anymore about topics that were under the carpet since ages. After Poorna, another actress speaks about child sexual abuse. The page Humans Of Bombay put up Kalki Koechlin’s story where she opened about being sexually harassed during her childhood.
Kalki has always been open about women empowerment and sexuality. This time, she showed the other side of her courageous-self and narrated the story of child-abuse to the whole world. She says –
The reason I spoke out about my sexual abuse is not to get people to feel sorry for me but to give others who have had similar circumstances the confidence to talk about it. I allowed someone to have sex with me at the age of nine, not understanding fully what it meant and my biggest fear after was that my mother would find out. I felt it was my mistake and so I kept it hidden for years. If I had had the confidence or awareness to confide in my parents it would have saved me years of complexes about my own sexuality. It’s important that parents remove the taboo around the word sex or private parts so kids can speak openly and be saved from potential abuse.
I believe in being myself every step of the way and not hiding my true self from society, whether that means getting a divorce because me and my husband didn’t want to pretend for other people, or wearing shorts because it’s a hot day or choosing a career which is unstable but creatively satisfying, or admitting to my weaknesses because learning from them has led to my strengths.
I’ve also been asked a lot about love lately. Well, i just feel love is not up for public display. Love is not the pictures you put up on social media. Love is not a certificate of marriage. Love is not property, children, family or ownership and love is not a barter – ‘I’ll give you this, if you give me that.’
Love is giving without expecting in return. It sounds like the ultimate act of self sacrifice right? But the trouble with giving, and I mean happily and limitlessly giving without expecting in return, is that one has to be self sufficient, and full of love for oneself. So, in a way, I believe love is selfish, because only a person who loves themselves fully, can give fully without expecting, without needing, without dependency. I’m not there yet, but I fight to be myself everyday in a world where we are constantly pressurized to be someone else, and that daily fight is my pursuit for love.”
We’re glad she spoke up. In a way her celebrity status will empower others like her to not shy away and rather ask for justice. Staying quite is not the solution, voicing against it is. Moreover like she has pointed out, sex education is very important and we must not keep our children away from it.