Canadian Singer Nelly Kim Furtado, “I Didn’t Quit Music, But I Quit Juggling”
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- March 18, 2017
Nelly Kim Furtado is a Canadian singer and songwriter. If you’re wondering why she has taken a rather long break from the music world, here’s the answer.
In 2003, her daughter, Nevis, was born. Since then, the artist is busy being a mommy.
To decode what she is up to these days, Refinery 29 spoke with the pretty lady. Below are the excerpts from her empowering interview talking about motherhood evolving her, the scrutinizing by the society and how, ignoring everything, she’s turning her sabbatical into something more valuable!
“My life was pretty much on fast-forward from the age of 20. I signed my first record deal, and then it was constant juggling of my work and my home life. I became a mother at quite a young age, I was 25, and then I had a long-term business relationship [with her ex-manager] that was like a father figure to me. A couple of years ago I realized we had to part ways, and when that ended I took a look at a bunch of stuff in my life and had this urge to simplify it. I didn’t quit music, but I quit juggling. I thought, ‘I’m going to clean my own toilet and wash my own underwear!’”
“I didn’t wanna be surrounded by bullshit anymore; I want to demand truth from the people around me and from myself. It’s about dreams not always matching up to reality and coming out of the other side.”
“I started taking ceramics classes and playwriting classes at the local university. Working at my daughter’s school library sorting books, and working the till at my friend’s record store. All those things help me remember who I was.”
“It’s difficult for women in the business because our maternal side comes out. You have people who rely on you to feed their families. You’re expected to maintain that because that’s how business works – any business model is based on expansion and exceeding your numbers. Women in particular, because of our desire to nurture, don’t want to get off that wheel because we feel [responsible] for other people. I remember I was on the road with my daughter and I realised I didn’t want to raise her on the road anymore. It was hard, because I had to say no to a lot of people, but the most important person is yourself and your family.”
“I have utmost respect for any woman in any business who’s successfully balanced those responsibilities. There was a big scandal, I think it was the CEO of Yahoo, when she said she was going back to work six weeks after having a baby [in 2015, Marissa Mayer returned to work within one month of giving birth to twins]. People just tore her down. And I thought it was the most overt display of misogyny and the patriarchal world we live in that I’d ever seen. My heart went out to her. I thought, ‘God, who has the right to know what this woman feels?’”
“I’d just finished nursing my daughter, I was 26, 27, my body was different and I was like, ‘Oh wow, I’m a woman now, I’m not a girl anymore!’ I consciously made a decision to do a more streamlined pop album because I wanted to prove to myself I could do it. It was an authentic part of me.”
Her new album ‘The Ride’ is out on 31st March 2017.